To forgive is divine. This we believe.
Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. This we learn.
We often overlook the most profound form of forgiveness: forgiving ourselves. We may forgive others readily, even wholeheartedly, and not give ourselves a second thought.
How often do you treat yourself with unrelenting harshness? You made a mistake. You made a big mistake. You should have known better. You did know better. Why didn’t you know better?
You behaved badly. You were thoughtless. You caused someone pain. You were selfish. You were cruel. You were vindictive. You were out for blood.
What’s wrong with you? It’s all your fault. You’re a bad person. You don’t deserve happiness.
Do you hear yourself? Or are you so accustomed to self-criticism that it’s merely part of your psychic makeup?
By all means, look at your mistakes. Learn from them. Apologize when you do wrong. Own it. Don’t do it again. Make amends, if necessary. Then, do forgive yourself.
Why is forgiving yourself so important?
Unrelenting self-punishment accomplishes nothing. Nothing. Total waste of energy. If you did something that bad, then put this energy into making it right. Maybe it will take a long time. Put that energy into the long timeline.
What will happen if you forgive yourself?
The world will end and it will be all your fault. Just kidding.
Your life will open up. Spinning your wheels in the mire of wrongdoing simply holds you in one spot.
Besides, there is enough suffering in the world. Don’t add to it. Choose beauty instead.