“I know, babycakes. Nothing about life is fair.”
This news makes children very unhappy. It also makes many adults equally unhappy.
Sing it for us, sister!
The concept of fairness is man-made and reflects well on our moral progress. However, it isn’t a quality that we should expect to find occurring naturally. Such an expectation will lead to disappointment which is a fast-track to unhappiness. This is not to say that we should be resigned and defeatist. Quite the contrary.
The fact that life is unfair is good news.
What? Maybe in your life but let me tell you….
I know, X and Y and Z all landed with a thud on your head and life sucks. Yes, it’s true that X and Y and Z are not fair.
All that pain has blinded you to A and B and C which all make your life wonderful. Guess what? That’s right: A and B and C are also not fair.
Then there’s D through W — all the variations in between that add to the rich tapestry of your life. They’re also not fair.
Play to the unfairness
When we shift our focus to the more complete picture of unfairness in our lives, we open our doors to beauty.
We can think of the best experiences of our lives, our greatest triumphs, our biggest advantages, our best qualities, our most treasured gifts.
But that’s not fair!
And we can smile at our beautiful lives.